There is a polarity in everything in life. Happy and sad, rich and poor, heavy and thin. The contrast and the differences between things can help us clarify what we want in life. When it comes to creating your life, there is the having and the “not” having.
To create what you want in your life, you need to focus on what you want, in other words, “the having.” If you want money, you need to focus on money. If you want a relationship, focus on having the relationship of your dreams. If you want a fit and lean body, focus on being fit and lean.
The problem comes because we all tend to focus on the “not having” that we are experiencing at the moment.
I assume that if you are trying to create something, you don’t have something yet. And therein lies the problem. If you focus on the “fact” you don’t have what you desire yet, then that is your point of attraction.
If your mailbox is full of delinquent bills every day, it isn’t easy to focus on the money that you want.
If you are overweight and the scales won’t budge, focusing on being fit, thin, and ideal weight isn’t easy.
If you eat dinner alone every night, it can be challenging to focus on that relationship, making it more elusive than ever.
But to consciously “create” the life of your dreams and have the money, the relationship, the health, the fit body, whatever it is that you want, you must focus your attention upon that instead!
But how you focus on what you want makes all the difference.
Here is where visualizations and even daydreaming comes in. What will it take to give you the feeling of having it now?
This is how you will consciously create the life of your dreams. You get what you are “feeling.” And this principle isn’t personal; it works regardless of the “feelings,” good or bad.
If you are feeling bad about the debt that arrives daily in your mailbox, then you are creating stress around the debt = feeling bad about the debt, and soon it seems even more debt will show up for you to feel bad about!
What we focus upon grows.
And if you have focused feelings of gratitude and appreciation, you will soon notice you have even more things in your world for which to feel grateful!
It can be challenging to control your thoughts. I think we can all agree on that.
So rather than trying to control your thoughts all the time, try a strategy I am going to call “Intentional Daydreaming.”
Set aside 15 minutes at a time to consciously visualize what it is that you want. You can even do it when you are doing something else, driving, exercising, vacuuming the house—or, one of my favs, listening to classic rock music.
During that time, daydream and see the final result in your head. Imagine what you would feel, see, hear, touch if you had your heart’s desire. Use as many senses as you can. If your mind wanders back to unpleasant thoughts during the 15 minutes, develop the discipline to return to your daydream. Enjoy your “daydream time,” do it as many times as you can, once a day, twice a day, or more.
If you develop this discipline, you will be well on your way to letting go of those stressful thoughts that drain and only bring on more stress—and replacing those with expansive, higher-level thoughts that will bring in the opportunities and experiences you truly desire!
Be Well! And enjoy your daydreams :)
xo, Marci
